The Shortcut to Healing from Rape

If there was a shortcut to healing from rape, I would have found it. I tried it all. Escape only created more need to escape because all the trauma was waiting for me at the other side. Denial confused the hell out of me because eventually, I lost track of who I was. Treading water in the hope that the trauma would pass all by itself only froze me in stasis. Half-assed therapy was even less effective.

I tried everything except walking through the horror and feeling every part. I had a legitimate reason for my pain. Nobody denied that, but I had no real excuses for insisting on a short cut out of hell.

 

 

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They say there’s no such thing as a perfect victim. I will tip my hat at that one. Rape is a harsh trip, and nobody gets past it perfectly the first time. In the same breath, I have to say that the only way out is through. It involves work. It involves pain. It requires you to glare at the harsh, harsh heat of reality because there is only one way to move from surviving to thriving: by tolerating every intolerable feeling.

It’s not for pussies.

I spent 12 years drowning. I wish someone had told me that if I stopped insisting there was no water and just started swimming, I would get to the other side of the lake. There’s an island there, and the beach is the whitest you’ve ever seen.

I lost so many years to pretending there were no tears. Useless, useless years.

Then I put on my boots and worked. I’m not going to lie about how easy it was. Far from it, but within a short year, my isolation was gone, and I was living the normal life I thought was impossible for me.

“Hope is a thing with feathers,” Emily Dickinson wrote, “that sits on the soul and sings the tune without the words, and never stops at all.”

There is the key: hope never, ever stops singing.

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4 thoughts on “The Shortcut to Healing from Rape

  1. So true! I look forward to exploring this issue more myself as I re-enter therapy for EMDR and discuss the mental health and healing implications of assault on my blog. It is constant work. There is no way to make it go away and as my mother says it will always be a part of your story. It’s just working on healing so it’s only a part of who you are and not overtaking who you are! Thank you for sharing! Sending love.

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